At AgeSong, memory loss is not a reason for pity or despair. Care Partners undergo rigorous training to perceive forgetfulness from a holistic, non-patholigizing viewpoint. So-called “challenging behaviors” are approached from a place of curiosity and are considered to be full of meaning. There is a huge difference between attempting to change or control a behavior and attempting to understand its meaning. For example, someone may ask, repeatedly and in a loud, impatient voice, for a tunafish sandwich on white toast and be quite satisfied with a turkey sandwich on wheat bread. What the person really wanted was company, someone to talk with, because she became quite happy when a care partner sat and talked with her while she ate the turkey sandwich on wheat bread.